Roj Bash Kurdistan

Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.

very interesting question, i wish i could writie more in details...i just keep it short.
the answer is can be divvied to different category.

because, is depend , phonological background(how he /she. brought up..Sadly happiy, abusive..etc..).Culture, religion (faith), are also important factures. systems which gropw up with(example,consider two child in different sytesm suadi Arabia government systems and Holland for example), and economic and educational matter... this is some most factorial that have cause of action in regards to any individual emotions towards its family and parents.

In western culture of today. some element such as strong emotional boundary is no longer is facter, as soon person reach 16 or 18 have to be totally depend of themleves.in this culture individual is clear factor, emotions are low to due systesm productivity. and each person hardly have spent proper time with their child most we grow up in child care centers. In such soicsity also faith run low and have no much eaffect on family affir( not mention divorce). Also media, fashion education is alo play key rule of distance. This is not critising any systems or society but knowing real factors.

In eastern country situations is different. is abit opposite, where emotion, culture of respect to elderly is priority..etc... but those countries while becoming industrials’ and developed, create distance between child and parents. for example Japan one of very tradition family loving .thoses boundaries is collapsing. Children hardly spent time with parents, and most children live their parents, may see them one of year or not at all. today there is big gap in between younger and older generation in Japan.
And some south American counter also is the case where religon play key rule in family boundaries..and son
so, overall when globalization take effect and standardization of life become universal then this emotions ill eventually have same level affection cross all cultures.

Let me answer you question after all:

do we have respoindblity toardws parnts?

if was yesterday(past you asked me) I would strongly said Yes(no matter where I live)

if you are asking me Today( if I am in Saudi Arabia or Mexico i would say yes, we most, if I am in Germany, I will say well I will try)

If however you ask me this question in future ,I will say No I don’t have to.
Future “NO” is Hugh concept, is not about losing everything..but my idea about efficient human life strategy as well as evolution of new technology ,,which i don’t want talk in here.

Morutea wrote:Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks.

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Inshallah it will not be your last post..
It is a very interesting question.. dast xosh bt..

My answer will be certainly " Yes", because I had some experience with that.
My mom was a teacher in Kurdistan, she helped me too much when I had any questions
But now after coming to Denmark, it is me who help her to learn danish language..
She loughed at this attitude. She says " subhan allah, I helped you when were a child, but it is you, who help me now" ;

So I think that it is our duty to make them happy.
They helped us to grow up as a nice rose with having a good life and be an educated person.
(((( It is our turn to make them happy ))))

Morutea wrote:Hello all,

It is my first post

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?

Thanks.

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Sura al ahqaf 46:15

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَاناً حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهاً وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهاً وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْراً حَتَّى إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ وَبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَى وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحاً تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ
We enjoined the human being to honor his parents. His mother bore him arduously, gave birth to him arduously, and took intimate care of him for thirty months. When he reaches maturity, and reaches the age of forty, he should say, "My Lord, direct me to appreciate the blessings You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and to do the righteous works that please You. Let my children be righteous as well. I have repented to You; I am a submitter."

womanizer


It depend on the cultur & tradition & religion and TIME.
I am totally agree with you ...